All rights reserved. Boomer parents wonder why they are ignored. I assume that when theyre older your grandchildren might see their own parents the way your adult children see you as a waste of vacation time. 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Why are boomers like this? They've become "helicopter" grandparents. Because of high infant mortality even in the 19th century, it was not uncommon for 20% of children to die before age 5 parents saw no reason to invest substantial material or emotional resources until it was clear a child would live. Hi, I'm Ashley Potter! I'm describing a family structure that was more "top down," where the parents made choices on behalf of the family. Dear Been There: This child is probably too young to fight his own battles effectively, but this situation offers teachable moments. 104. These parents promote a family structure in which everything revolves around their kids. Dear Amy: I am the teenage daughter of an alcoholic. I do agree that the grown children need to tell their parents why they don't have any . They tell us that if we want to see them, we will have to travel. Should I give up? You can connect with him Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. This is a very hard truth for the loving child of an addict to accept, because hope is dangled and then snatched away so readily, and so often. That might lead to a kid being a brat, but it's also not an indication that the child feels too complimented; they might feel exactly affirmed enough and that's amazing. Boomer parents wonder why they are ignored 2015-11-24 - Dear Amy: During our 20s, 30s and 40s, my wife and I travelled to see our parents, who were in their 50s, 60s and 70s, during the holiday season and at other times. I'm describing a family structure that was more "top down," where the parents made choices on behalf of the family. 1. (You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com. Dear Amy: Worried Mommy was upset that her 4-year-old was being bullied by some young cousins. Children in their 30s and 40s, with children of their own I do agree the. Up with the original idea of absentee & quot ; helicopter & quot grandparents. 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